So, you’re 30. What now?
You’ve no doubt lived through some tough times already, which have started to mould you into a different being than you were ten years ago.
Now that you have some knowledge and experience on your side, your thirties are a great time to make some big, long-lasting changes in your life that will benefit you later on.
Here are 30 suggestions to get you started.
Know your look – try out new hair and makeup styles, spend the day trying on different kinds of clothes. Figure out what suits you to look your best and you will be rockin’ your 30’s before you know it!
Research your family tree – not only can you uncover some interesting details about your roots, but it’s also a lovely way to spend time with the older folks in your family, and is a gift to pass down to the younger ones.
Travel somewhere you always wanted to go – even if you’re not big on travelling, there’s probably at least one site you would still like to see in person. Start planning how you’re going to get there.
Be healthy – if you haven’t already, start implementing a healthier lifestyle. You don’t have to be a gym rat or fitness guru to do this. Just drink a bit more water, be a bit more active, get enough sleep, and think about your food choices a bit more.
Do something you always wanted to do – no matter how big or small.
Solidify your career – if you’re not happy in your career or position, change it. Your mental health will benefit hugely.
Crush that one recurring resolution – you know the one. That new year’s resolution that crops up year after year and never really gets done. If it’s something that has been on your mind for such a long time, you owe yourself to finally get it done. No more waiting, no more excuses. If it’s important to you, you will find a way.
Be a confident cook – we’re not talking world-class here. Aim for a level you’re comfortable with.
BYOBF – Be Your Own Best Friend. Give yourself the same advice you would give to a close friend. When you have a problem, answer yourself in a way you would to somebody you love. If it makes it easier, try writing down your problem on a piece of paper, let all the feelings spill onto the page. Don’t worry about being neat, articulate, or even making sense. Then, read what you wrote and imagine it was written by somebody you truly care about. How would you respond to them? We could all stand to be a little kinder to ourselves.
Clear your debts – the snowball and avalanche methods are proven very effective at reducing debt.
Do something that scares you – this does not have to be something extreme like jumping out of a plane, unless that’s your kind of thing, but do something that pushes you outside of your comfort zone. Maybe it’s changing your career, taking up an exercise that intimidates you (safely), moving to a different city, reaching out to people you’ve wanted to connect with, being honest about your thoughts and feelings.
Look after your skin – exfoliate, moisturise, tone, do all the things.
Enhance your personal development – listen to podcasts, read self-growth and self-help books, meditate, get to know yourself on a deeper level.
Find your Ikigai – this is a Japanese concept which is basically your reason for being. It is a cross-over between something you love, something the world needs, what you’re good at, and what you can be paid for. When you find something that falls into all 4 categories for you, that is your Ikigai.
Save 6 months of living expenses – if you haven’t already got a financial budget then now is the time to set one up. Once you know how much (roughly) you need to live on every month, then times that by 6 and you have your half-year savings goal. We are all only too aware, with the current CoronaVirus situation, how quickly things can change. Having a nest egg set aside is great for unforeseen circumstances.
Kick a bad habit – we’ve all got one. Pick one and start working on reducing its occurrence in your life.
Do a complete declutter – whether it’s a deep spring clean, following Marie Kondo, Swedish Death Cleaning (Döstädning), or whatever other method you prefer. Trust me, you’ll feel so much lighter and happier when you’re done.
Implement a new, good habit – start incorporating one good habit into your life today.
Get your side hustle off the ground – just make sure it’s something you enjoy doing.
Visit medical professionals regularly – opticians, dentist, doctor. Keep up your regular check-ups to maintain your health.
Make 10-year-old you proud – think back to when you were about 10 years old. What did you enjoy? Can you remember what your favourite activities were? What did you want to be or dream of becoming when you grew up?
Make your inner child ecstatic by fulfilling their biggest wish in whatever way you can. Wanted to be an author? Write and self-publish a book, even if it’s only 1 copy that sits on your own bookshelf. Wanted to be a cowboy? Take some horse riding lessons. Wanted to be a superhero? Start doing random acts of kindness for strangers or volunteer your time and skills, that’s pretty super.
Invest in life insurance – just do it OK. It really doesn’t take that long.
Start that hobby you’ve been pondering – been thinking about taking up knitting, calligraphy, photography, painting, whatever it is go do it.
Love your home – take pride in your home. Think about how you want your space to look, smell and feel, then make it happen.
Love yourself – no, seriously. Don’t just scroll past this one because you’ve heard it before, there’s a reason it’s often suggested. Many of us talk very negatively to ourselves, and it’s time we challenged them. Give yourself more slack on the things you perceive as negative about yourself, and praise your positive attributes and accomplishments. It’s a long road to self-love, especially if you’ve been self-deprecating for a while, but it will be so worth it. Start small, first just try to understand and accept yourself.
Connect with family regularly – they are part of your identity, you share the same roots, and they love you. Many of us do not show our appreciation for our families as often as we should or would like to.
Make ‘someday’ today – stop putting things off because you’re waiting for the ‘right moment’. *Hint – it never comes. Think about it this way, if you’re putting it off now, how likely are you to actually do it when January 1st or whatever else comes round? Even if you do need to wait for something, (like you don’t yet have enough funds for it), you could probably still take one small step towards your goal today.
Take care of your credit score – I personally use ClearScore to track and build my credit score, but there are other companies offering the same.
Write a letter to 40-year-old you – talk about your hopes and fears, your dreams, your worries, your plans and how you hope you’ve made progress by the time you read this. Seal the letter in an envelope, write your name and “do not open until” with your 40th File it with your other important papers.
So, what would you like to do in your 30s? Or, if you’ve already been there, what are you glad you did or wish you had done?
Let us know in the comments.